If you want to fall in love, you need to be vulnerable. Would you agree? In order to be vulnerable, you have to be relaxed enough to let your guard down. Would you agree with that as well? So if your guard is up because you’ve had a lot of bad dates or because you’ve been deeply hurt, how are you going to all of a sudden be relaxed enough, be vulnerable enough? To fall in love. If your body biologically thinks it’s in danger or it’s dealing with danger, right?
I’m going to say that again slowly. Okay. In order to fall in love or make a connection, you need to be vulnerable. Yes. Yes. And in order to be vulnerable, you have to be relaxed enough to let your guard down.
So if we’ve established, the guard is up because of all your bad dates or because you’ve been hurting your past, how are you going to be relaxed enough? All of a sudden to let the guard down to fall in love because. Your body is biologically telling you that there is danger in front of you, AKA crazy in front of you, or you are in danger, right?
And those things aren’t true. Your body doesn’t know the difference between your bad date and a potential predator in the wild man or a woman. And that’s a problem. And so you’re misinterpreting your natural feelings for whatever you’re seeing with absolute truth. When in reality, you probably just need a little reworking with yourself.
The big picture problem here is that since your body is in protect mode, it literally can’t produce the chemicals necessary in your brain to fall in love because your body is so naturally on guard from your bad experiences, your body is in protect mode. So it literally cannot produce the chemicals necessary in your brain to fall in love, because you are so on guard about any of the bad experiences that you’ve had, whether or not you are actively working on are saying it doesn’t bother you stuff that’s deep-rooted in you.
So the more you repress it or the more you don’t acknowledge it, the harder it’s going to be for you.
