The Attraction Checklist

Stop Swiping. Get Scouted.

Guys tend to think that if you check enough boxes and you have enough in common, that’s really what it is, but attraction is all psychological.

I’m actually working with a client right now that sort of fits this lie perfectly. And he’s got this idea that being the perfect guy is enough, that it creates attraction, but the attraction has nothing to do with a checklist of, Oh, he checks this box and he’s nice. And he’s, he’s considerate. And we, we both like this type of music.

Guys tend to think that if you check enough boxes and you have enough in common, that’s really what it is, but attraction is all psychological. It’s really going through her own head.

And the funny thing is, it’s interesting because it’s the same side, right? Women will always have the same sort of complaints and guys always think it’s the woman that is pulling away and the woman always think it’s the man. But what they both don’t realize is, wait a minute, I’m attracted to a woman who plays a little hard to get.

The fault, I guess, is a lot of guys take away that anticipation. They give her nothing to think about. They give her nothing to anticipate and eventually she goes, “Oh, I don’t really miss this guy when he’s not around.”

And that’s my client. He gets the, I don’t know if I’m feeling it speech or maybe take a break. And really what’s going on, is she could have a great time with them and have a lot in common, but then she goes home and she’s like, yeah, there’s just not that spark.

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